I'm hardcore Type A . I never really thought of myself as this way because it just comes so naturally. I make packing lists, I organize my bedroom, I make charts and calendars to figure out what needs to be done when. I mean I don't do this all the time--I procrastinated my way through high school and college just like everyone else. But if I'm making a big decision or planning a big trip, I'm very methodical about it. It made moving last month really kind of awful--I was so paralyzed by "what am I going to pack first, no I need that, no that's too heavy," etc. that it took me a while just to get going. But if it's something important, that I want to plan, I spend more time doing that than other important things (like, say, showering).
You see where this is going, don't you?
Wedding planning.
Yes, I'm one of those girls who has been secretly (or not-so-secretly) planning my wedding for a long time. And honestly, it's not because I'm super romantic, or because I want to feel like a princess on my wedding day, or because I want to have the fanciest, danciest, funnest wedding of anyone I know. It's because it's the most fun planning something I will ever have.
In all honesty, I haven't been planning my wedding as long as some people have by the time they get engaged. Dave and I have been talking about getting married for a few years, and I honestly didn't even think about weddings until then. But once we had that first conversation, I was off and running. I read wedding blogs, like Weddingbee and Offbeat Bride, pinned dresses, bookmarked rings, and dropped hint after hint after hint. Dave came to just accept it. I read wedding blogs and sigh over proposals, and he got used to it. Sort of.
Then we got engaged. And I, the spreadsheet-making, budget-calculating, closet-organizing fiend that I am, took that to mean "I'm ready to have this wedding you've been planning! Let's do it! Soon, before you can plan anything else!" And Dave really meant it to mean "we've been together three years and we're not going to break up! Let's celebrate with jewelry!" Which I was fine with--but I still want to plan my wedding, and Dave isn't ready for that yet.
I totally understand where he's coming from. We've been engaged about a month, but we don't both have full time jobs and we don't really know how we can pay for a wedding. And we also JUST graduated and JUST moved in together--it makes sense to take some time to get used to that before diving into DIY and dress shopping.
But I want to plan, dang it! I want to email venues and meet with photographers and have cake tastings! Dave wants to enjoy being engaged, but I want to enjoy planning a wedding.
Anyone else a planning nut (wedding or otherwise)? Where are you on the wait-to-wed vs. planplanplan! spectrum?
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